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an interesting post...

Here is an entry from Natalie Reed's blog that I quite enjoyed and agreed with. I simply attach a link....

http://freethoughtblogs.com/nataliereed/2012/04/02/harry-benjamin-syndrome-syndrome/

Very well said Natalie.

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  1. Sounds like the pot calling the kettle black.

    "So when you have certain models or structures within that culture that offer some semblance of conditional external validation (no matter how absurdly high that bar has been set), people are going to build their sense of worth upon how close they get to meeting those conditions."

    Sounds like crossdreaming to me.

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  2. This is what I love about you AQV - you will point me to websites like natalie's blog (I will gladly find which post if you desire) and when that same person posts something you disagree with then suddenly its all the bad bogeyman transgender agenda,

    You are very rapidly losing alk credibility with me and am understanding more and more why jack molay has banned you from posting on his site.

    Your HBS exceptionalism one trick pony show is getting really tiresome and very predictable.

    Natalie is simply preaching inclusiveness instead of the usual poisonnous infighting among trans people. But of course HBS transsexuals can't have that and they must start battles because in order to feel more secure that they are truly women they must put us poor transfolk down.

    Your credibility is now in need of repair.

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  3. The ideas behind crossdreaming and AGP theory have been discredited for me. Until I see better science I won't attach myself to any theory. Gender disphoria is a very real thing and how I deal with mine is my main concern.

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