Skip to main content

Posts

Showing posts from August, 2014

a word about tucking....

I know I don’t often speak about my dressing routine specifics but today I wanted to briefly touch the subject of tucking. I suppose everyone has their own method but I will share mine with you.

I no longer use a gaff as I found the one I had uncomfortable. What I use instead are small-sized panties in the garconne style. What I like about these is that they have a wider band at the bottom that provide support and don’t ride up the sides of your crotch area which ends up inducing irritation over a longer outing.

I put the underwear on from a sitting position and slowly stand as I insert them. This encourages the penis to be pulled back comfortably into place and all that remains is to make sure that my testicles are pushed back into their sockets to produce a very clean and flat look.

The last step is to put on my padded girdle which I purchased from the Breastform store several years ago.

My entire dressing process, which I now have down to an art form, is now down to about 15 minute…

created

Everything I have collected in terms of research and personal experience over my lifetime tells me with virtually 100% certainty that gender variant people are created and not self made. When I say this I am not only including biological predisposition but also our socialization which leaves us with a kind of morbid curiosity towards emulating or becoming the other sex. We who are so afflicted are then dependant on a series of factors which juxtapose in their own unique formula to help decide our path forward; they include but are not limited to sexual orientation, religious beliefs, family and job concerns.

Why is this important?

Because that knowledge should help us to relax and realize that we are not the ones who are to blame for the feelings. Our behaviour (such as the desire for cross gender expression) is a symptom of a desire to become more closely acquainted with what we love and admire in the other sex. As hard as it is to explain even to ourselves, this is a basic truth.

F…

transforming yourself

Adrian Acosta is a drag artist, photographer and website creator. Here is a nice piece he wrote this year about his service which performs male to female transformations on heterosexual men. I thought I would post it in its entirety.

“Think of all the crazy things people pay money to do. Some people spend their money on skydiving, skiing, bungee jumping, paragliding, workout classes and the list goes on. Many of these things are downright dangerous. Think of attending the opera. I know, it's not dangerous but really think about it; sitting in a darkened room with strangers listening to fat ladies scream is downright ridiculous, yet people pay lots and lots of money for a two-plus hour front row seat.

When people express how crazy they find the idea of me doing Boy-to-Girl Transformations on my clients is, I ask them: "Is it as crazy as skydiving?"

There are many ways to get your thrills in life, and a Boy-to-Girl Transformation is one of them.

What is a Boy-to-Girl Tra…

something to bank on...

Normally when I get home from work I go out for a bit as Joanna but last night my first instinct was that I probably wouldn't dress. I had a banking appointment to renew my mortgage at 5 pm and decided I wouldn't bother. But then I thought the better of it and decided to dress anyway. I was sure that the banking representative wouldn't mind and in fact a previous bank manager there, who has since left the branch, already knew I was transgendered and had absolutely no problem with it.

The person I ended up meeting with was a young (under 30) and very polite man who gave me very courteous service. I felt I needed to preamble our discussion by mentioning that I was transgendered, but without missing a beat he said that someone there at the branch was also trans plus he had already dealt with other customers like me.

In ended up being a very positive experience indeed and another indication of how the world is getting smaller and more savvy everyday. So with very little fanfa…

a little more outreach

It’s important to do outreach.

Recently N and I were having brunch at her brother’s house and I had a chance to have a brief chat with his partner of many years; let’s call her by her first initial J.

The subject of my dressing came up (which by the way she knows about) and her comment to me was how surprisingly normal I was for a transgender person. I supposed that she had expected gender variant people to be odd or to have discernibly strange characteristics or attitudes. So she made the point to tell me that I had educated her on this topic.

Well maybe I am an odd bird.

I happened to have a picture on my phone of Joanna and I showed it to her. She was impressed with how much like a woman I looked and how well put together I was. She said it might be fun one day to have coffee with me in my Joanna mode to which I wholeheartedly agreed.

J had also recently seen an ex male employee return to the office as a transitioned woman. At 61 years of age this person had decided to make a major…

accepting your hard coding

Cross gender expression is often seen as most negative by the people who know the least about it. My sister who is deeply devout Catholic used to see it as an obsessive and sexually driven behaviour. I pleaded for her to become educated in the subject but instead she would point me to religious zealots or repentant ex-dressers who said they had been cured.

Invariably I would scratch the surface of these writings and immediately find the weak points and spell them out for her. Often the people most objectionable were the least educated on the topic and astonishingly biased to begin with. Most had an axe to grind.

For the better part of two years, my sister kept trying to make me see the light. But it wasn’t until she herself found the website of Chris Pagani the transgendered artist that she began to have her epiphany and realise that there was more than met the eye. Chris not only thoroughly explains her life long struggle with gender dysphoria but does so such much eloquence and conv…