Thursday, 31 December 2015

more craziness

Here is another example of someone who I very much doubt is transgender taking advantage of the recent popularity of this movement and injecting a new dose of incredulity from a wary public. The media loves these stories of course and they sell ads on the internet or supermarket tabloids.

I can't pretend to understand the motivation of this person but it almost reeks of publicity stunt.

I wish these people would have more common sense but such is the world I am afraid.

Ok perhaps I am jumping to conclusions but it is an odd story don't you think?

http://www.pinknews.co.uk/2015/12/30/comedian-who-came-out-as-transgender-reverts-back-to-a-man/



Wednesday, 30 December 2015

confident

Confidence isn't about pretending it's about possessing. I've learnt that lesson over time.

I used to try and pretend I was confident when out dressed but it wasn't working and I knew it. I felt like a fraud and everything from my body language to my facial expression advertised that discomfort. Only now in retrospect can I tell the difference.

Now I think: who in blazes cares what about the opinions of other people. They know nothing about you or your life. You need to be true to yourself with the understanding that you are not breaking any laws be they civil or moral. You are treating gender dysphoria or simply have a penchant for crossdressing; either way it pays to be comfortable in your own skin.

Smile and be happy. Engage others in conversation and you will be amazed how your confidence soars. If nothing else you will be doing outreach.

Recently a US poll revealed that only a tiny fraction of Americans admitted that they knew a transgender person but of course that statistic is wrong. Many of us live in the shadows and carry our dysphoria with us like a ball and chain (think Jacob Marley from a Christmas Carol). The key to our release is entirely in our hands and what holds us back is fear of the unknown.

Coming out and how much you do it is up to you. I think that the barometer for this might be feeling good about yourself and releasing your soul from a self-inflicted purgatory.

I grew up repressed due to my religious upbringing so my path was extra long. Perhaps yours might be considerably shorter.

If you are stuck thinking that being transgender is the result of some sort of deviance and nothing I have said in this blog has convinced you otherwise, I invite you to keep reflecting. I am convinced you will arrive at the right place if you ask the proper questions.

When I am out as Joanna I am not pretending to be someone else. I am simply being who I am and there is no better gift to give yourself than that.

Tuesday, 29 December 2015

the Danish girl

I ended up seeing the Danish Girl and it was a good film.

It may end up with Oscar nominations for both Eddie Redmayne and, even more deservedly, Alicia Vikander who plays the role of Gerda the wife of Einar Wegener who later became Lili Elbe.

The subject matter was treated with respect although the motivation for Einar’s transition was only glossed over. But alas you can only accomplish so much in a two hour movie and this very complex subject which would demand another two hours just to attempt to tackle it.

I would give the film a recommendation although a non-transgender person will learn little about the subject. Indeed the film will best serve as the biography of a transgender pioneer and nothing more. Still director Hooper has produced a cinematographic feast for the eyes while getting some compelling performances from his actors to boot. Hopefully the public will find the story of Elbe interesting and moving.

Also of historical note is the fact that the real Elbe had her reassignment surgery under the supervision of Magnus Hirschfeld in Berlin so this was very early in the history of a procedure which is now routinely performed all over the world.





Monday, 28 December 2015

the issue of orientation

Let's follow the bouncing ball shall we?

Harry Benjamin did not classify his patients by sexual orientation but instead by the degree of disconnect they felt from their birth sex. Indeed before the time of Benjamin and under the care of Magnus Hirschfeld, one of the earliest patients to undergo surgery was Lili Elbe who would have been classified as an autogynephilic transsexual by Ray Blanchard.

To confuse matters further, Both Benjamin and Blanchard wondered if transvestism (as it was then known) shared a common etiology with transsexualism. Benjamin saw many patients who blurred the lines between the two and this is how he ended up fashioning his scale.

However for Blanchard there were two types of unrelated transsexualism while for Benjamin there was one and it was independent of orientation. He never made the same connection that Blanchard found so relevant.

The landscape of our twentieth century is dotted with gynephilic and androphilic transsexuals but for obvious reasons we have more androphilic by virtue of the more favorable alignment of circumstances that an androphilic possesses.

If we find out that there is a biological tracer for transsexualism then the entire orientation classification of Blanchard's becomes important only as a factor which colours how early or even whether someone transitions at all.

Some time after Benjamin's death the idea that androphilic transsexuals were true transsexuals began to take hold among some of these transitioned women themselves. This had no basis in science nor was it found in any of Benjamin's writings. Once Blanchard came along he helped the cause of these believers because by putting each group into two silos these "true" transsexuals could claim that the autogynephilic variety were just perverted men in love with their own female image.

Ultimately this assumption will be proven to be incorrect and Benjamin's biological source of gender dysphoria will triumph once the science catches up.

Kimberly Reed is a current example of a gynephilic transsexual who transitioned during her College years and was at one time the much envied high school captain of the football team turned woman. I remember seeing her on Oprah a few years ago and would never have guessed she had not been born a female. She breaks down the idea that one must be an effeminate girly boy who then transitions and marries a man. In fact Reed considers herself a lesbian woman and has a female life partner. She is also the model of the type of transgender woman that I wish Caitlyn Jenner was.

Gender dysphoria does not discriminate according to orientation. It's just either strong enough or not in obliging you to transition. Orientation becomes a filter for the condition and nothing more.






Friday, 25 December 2015

the biological tracer is coming

I was going to wait till the new year to post but then I found mention of a Scientific American story which points to some hopeful evidence that there may indeed be a biological tracer for gender dysphoria and hence a transgender brain. This study from 2014 follows other studies such as one performed in 2009 by Australian researchers which again showed a lot of promise.

I for one am certain its only a matter of time and will gleefully rub my hands together when I see Ray Blanchard's work spectacularly go down in flames conclusively and for the rest of time.

Even more exciting will be the finding that since human brains are so complex gender dysphoria likely varies between individuals. This is something which Harry Benjamin hinted at with his disorientation scale but for which he lacked conclusive scientific proof.

I am confident that a conclusive finding will happen within my own lifetime.

Oh and Merry Christmas!!

You will find the story at the following link

http://www.scientificamerican.com/article/is-there-something-unique-about-the-transgender-brain/

Wednesday, 23 December 2015

thanks

Thanks to all of you for the feedback you provide me. It doesn't need to be voluminous; it just needs to be thoughtful and interesting and on that front you have delivered.

Thanks to Jack Molay for his good work over at Crossdreamers and for supporting my writings.

Thanks also to Calie over at T-Central. The best kind of support is that which comes from others facing the same challenges and victories.

A peaceful Christmas and a Fulfilling New Year ahead to all of you. I would say happy but we know that life always brings ups and downs. The important thing is to know how to navigate the minefields.

See you in January.

Tuesday, 22 December 2015

newly minted

Something I find odd.

I read these stories where people pronounce themselves to be a woman. A few weeks or even days later they shave everything, put on a wig and a dress and voila: a newly minted transgender woman.

No I am not making fun but this is a very strange way of coming out. No wonder some of the world thinks we are insane; some of us are not dealing with a full deck.

These sorts of pronouncements are more likely to make news because they are more scandalous. After all, someone going to gender therapy and then transitioning after a couple of years is now old news and yet this more often than not what actually happens.

At the risk of insulting anyone's sensibilities, we are not genetically women; we have gender dysphoria. Even when someone transitions early and is the perfect picture of feminine grace that person is still technically a genetic male. My intent here is not to injure but to point out how jarring this contradiction is for someone who believes that gender dysphoria is entirely invented folly.

So here comes this newly christened transgender woman which has not gone through any formal process and is expecting everyone to take her seriously. Even I cringe at these stories and shake my head.

A lot of this is really rooted in people with varying degrees of gender issues taking advantage of the new climate and in the process making a mockery of the struggles others have gone through. might they not be better off just admitting to the world that they are gender variant and express themselves accordingly?

Monday, 21 December 2015

fair game

Now in its 19th season on the air, South Park pulls no punches in its aim to be irreverent and poke fun at some of the absurdities of our modern culture. However having watched a couple of episodes so far left me thinking that they were perhaps wading a little too far into extremes.

This season features the cartoon rape of a Donald Trump inspired Canadian politician, Eric Cartman being beaten to a pulp by his new principal and a pull no punches depiction of Caitlyn Jenner as a plastic surgery freak show with a penchant for vehicular homicide.

N introduced me to the show some years back and in general have found it witty while remaining just on the edge of good taste with their pull no punches approach.

Both the episodes I saw the other night had me thinking they had gone just a little far this time. The theme of this season appears to be political correctness gone awry leaving us to accept questionable statements as accepted fact lest you be accused of being a bigot.

Not unexpectedly, the subject of Jenner's supposed heroism is taken on as another sacred cow and, while I am on the record as not being a huge fan of hers, her depiction was maybe a questionable call. Perhaps when it comes to this topic I am too myopic because it touches close to home. Other subjects tackled by Parker and Stone have not been quite so personal to me.

I will leave the question of whether Jenner is a role model or not alone and defer that to you. Do we have a right to poke fun at this issue? I believe the answer is yes. However I wouldn't be the person to ask whether the show crosses a limit either because the area of uncensored satire is not an area I would feel comfortable wading into.

Among the episodes I have seen, one of my favorites was the one dealing with racism. Randy appears on Wheel of Fortune and says the unthinkable. I felt that this sacred cow was handled more deftly however and, while racism is widely seen as unacceptable by most educated and reasonable people, being transgender is still seen by a wide margin of the population as a bizarre aberration of choice.

Criticism of Jenner is fine but by virtue of her notoriety some of us will take schrapnel from those who find her representative of us all. But the way Jenner seems to crave publicity and her tendency to commit verbal gaffs has not endeared her to many of us and invites parody.

For Stone and Parker everything is fair game so maybe chalk up my unease to my myopia on this issue.



Sunday, 20 December 2015

Netherworld

I inhabit a netherworld.

On the old Harry Benjamin scale I am fairly certain I would be classified as a non surgical transsexual; otherwise known as a type IV. Therefore I have had to think long and hard about what to do about my dysphoria. The conclusion has not come easily.

I have spiritual and philosophical objections to tampering with my body but even if that were not the case, my dysphoria is not potent enough to demand a physical correction.

This makes your life more complex in some ways because you reside between genders and cope the best way you can. That coping mechanism took me decades to find but find it I did.

It's important to know yourself and weigh what will truly make you happy but if you think you inhabit the same grey zone that I do, you need to then find a balance that works to moderate your dysphoria. If it were so simple it would not take as long as it does. Your obstacles will include your own lack of self acceptance, that of your family as well as pockets of society.

If you are currently struggling with this weighty subject, resolve to take steps this new year to come out and get help. You might find that coming out is not nearly as bad as you feared and even if it is at least you will have embarked on your first steps towards living honestly.

Saturday, 19 December 2015

AGP dismantled yet again....

I wrote yesterday how being transgender is not a fetish but that hasn't stopped some from trying to establish eroticism experienced as the cause.

Felix Conrad has a nice series of mini lectures set up on his site where he systematically and very logically examines the theory of Autogynephilia and pokes enough holes in it to make it even more of a Swiss cheese than it already was (not that this is so difficult).

Felix touches on the same fallacy of logic as well as the basic missing science which makes the theory a pure fantasy of speculation. If you read the whole thing through you will understand what I mean. It, of course, acknowledges arousal but discounts it as the origin of gynephilic transsexualism. Instead it puts it where it belongs which is as a symptom of something bigger and more complex.

He goes even further in acknowledging that you can have two typologies separated by orientation but that even that is circumstantial and is just another filter through which the condition must pass.

I highly recommend you read the whole thing which can be found at this link

Friday, 18 December 2015

clearing up confusion

Lest there be any confusion, this blog wholeheartedly supports all transgender people; whether they transition or not. My position on this is very clear and has been for a long time. Only you can know what is right for you.

What I have tried to do is to cut through the misinformation and the myths that have been developed over the decades (some very much deliberate) in order to make transgender people feel ashamed about who they are. This has come in the form of pseudoscience and even from the personal narratives of some transgender people who have set up a type of hierarchy to make themselves feel better about what they have done.

Currently there is no definitive science that would explain why we feel the way we do. Therefore whatever narrative you have written for yourself is your own. However I am more than convinced that transgender people are not suffering from any delusions; far from it.

There is a reason why we are this way but the official explanations need to catch up.

What I know in my bones but can’t prove is that there is a biological predisposition present. Something happens at the time of conception or at some point afterwards that makes us the way we are. After that, socialization and circumstances push us in a certain direction. By puberty we add sexual orientation into the mix which also acts as a factor.

Being transgender is not the result of sexual deviance or some sort of fetish because we know we are this way very early on in our development. By the age of 5 or 6 most of us know there is something different about us and how we deal with it depends on a great many factors; not the least of which is the family environment we are brought up in and the severity of the dysphoria we experience.

Most of our problems have stemmed from how we are viewed and accepted by others. If we did not have barriers within our own societies there would be no issue but this world has been hesitant to accept this difference of ours.

There have been undeniable advances made and I am sometimes bewildered to see how the world has changed since the time I was a teen trying to grapple with this difference.

Thursday, 17 December 2015

just when you think you've seen it all....

This story is a bit of a train wreck and is sure to please those who think that all transgender people are completely out of their minds.

The person featured in this story clearly needs psychological counseling and in our appetite for sensationalist stories it will provide plenty of fodder for those willing to dismiss this whole issue as pure mental illness.

It’s a shame because this person appears to have suffered some trauma in their childhood. No one has an easy life but this is clearly a very strange reaction in the form of an escape from the real world and from spousal and parental responsibility.

People with gender issues are no more immune to mental illness than anyone else and as I outlined in a recent post we are all unique and different.

You can read it here.

Wednesday, 16 December 2015

your own worst enemy

I used to think I would instantly be recognized when dressed in drag but over the years that has become a fallacy. I can think of countless occasions when I have passed colleagues and acquaintances (including my own brother) and was not recognized in Joanna mode. I had to literally flag my brother down and it took him a few seconds to make the connection.

For one thing, people don’t expect to see you dressed like that so they will not put two and two together and certainly not based on a chance encounter on the street when they may not even notice your presence.

As a result of this knowledge, I now never concern myself with discovery but even if it were to happen I would be more than happy to explain.

Those who read my blog know that I am out to my partner N, my children, extended family and close friends. My neighbors also know and could not care less so if you are living your life worrying about detection you are potentially missing out on being yourself and perhaps being happier for the ability to express yourself as you are inclined.

Fear is your worst enemy here and the drastic scenarios you imagine are almost never realized. Even if they were there is no law against alternative gender expression in most parts of the western world.

I know this because I was there for a very, very long time.




Tuesday, 15 December 2015

sex and gender

Here is a very entertaining video with a summary explanation of the differences between sex and gender. It was prepared in the context of intersex people but it could apply in many ways to those of us who don't fit into the rigid binary that the world would have us shoehorn ourselves into.


Sunday, 13 December 2015

a chat with my son

My son and I had a great heart to heart yesterday. At 15 I can see him developing into quite an intelligent young man.

It's not easy to grow up. It wasn't easy during my time and if anything it might be harder today. We have information overload in the form of social media and perhaps more peer pressure than ever to fit in and conform.

My son feels a bit like a loner and I can relate to that feeling. He is quiet, shy and reflective and that isn't a recipe for social popularity. We have been bonding as he ages and as my daughter and I distance ourselves with time he has filled that gap that she once occupied. He physically resembles my father in many ways and has a sense of calm that I much admire and even envy.

I am glad that I am able to help him through these turbulent years that will see him try and find his own unique identity in this world.

I told him that being yourself and building your mind is the best approach to dealing with the challenges that lie ahead in life. He seems to already be well on his way by the kinds of questions he asks and in his ability to analyze the world around him.

Saturday, 12 December 2015

obfuscation

There is no such thing as a conclusively true transsexual. In fact there is nothing in the chromosomes or brain scans of a person who transtions and you will likely find nothing different about them beforehand. At least this is the case today with our current technology.

The brain scans being performed on some transsexuals have been biased because their brain chemistry had already been altered through the ingestion of hormones and so we ended up where we started.

Most of the background noise on the internet involves discussing what the different typologies actually do and how they behave but very little touches on the actual lack of science on the subject.

One of the more prominent examples is Kay Brown's site "On the Science of Changing Sex" which gives an inordinate amount of time and space to describing the differences between early and late onset transsexuals and how they differ but offers nothing about what actually causes gender dysphoria in the first place.

We know virtually nothing about why someone feels compelled to transition. The rest is just based on behavioral differences mostly centered around sexual orientation and how that affects the decision making process. After all she follows Blanchard and his two typologies which are explicitly divided by just that. Continuing to beat a dead horse around this distinction smells more to me about establishing a hierarchy and predominance of one over the other rather than trying to understand motivation which is far more important.

Brown goes to great lengths to make a clear distinction between feminine trans kids and the more masculine and less easy to understand (at least for her) older transwoman who more often than not was previously married to a woman. But that is not the more important question at hand is it?

All this static and talk leading away from what should be the root question, and on that front, we are no further ahead than when Hirschfeld coined the original term.


Friday, 11 December 2015

the shrinking violet

The middle class is shrinking. Yesterday an a PEW report was released that showed that the middle class in the United States is now at 50% of the population; down from 61% in the early 1970’s. The loss has meant that some are getting richer while some are getting poorer; the lower class went from 25% to 30% while the upper class has gone from 14% to 21%.

I see it in my own city.

I can’t walk or drive anywhere now without seeing someone begging, sleeping in the street or trying to wash a windshield of an unsuspecting motorist at a red light.

This is ultimately an unsustainable scenario which breeds frustration, desperation and yes even radicalization. When people don’t have enough to eat and feel disenfranchised they despair.

The way we in the west have been living has not been good for the world. We have been hoarding the wealth and living greatly on the advantage of low wages in third world countries which made our cheap goods. But now even within our own borders we are seeing the effects of poverty. Our own people are falling off the grid.

It’s time for a serious wakeup call and maybe refocus our priorities on what’s important instead of amassing wealth so we can buy more cheap shit that doesn’t make us any happier.


Thursday, 10 December 2015

your personal truth

I have always wondered what made me gravitate towards emulating my mother and entering her closet in the first place at such a young age. By the age of 3 or 4 I was being scolded for wearing her shoes and that memory became permanently burned in my memory as the beginning of a road to denial that would endure for over 40 years.

I wasn't demonstrably effeminate when very young and when I hit puberty I knew I liked girls but my outside behavior was largely governed by my ability to mimic what I was expected to show. I was a thin, sensitive and shy kid who knew how to accommodate and I grew up during a time when gender behavior was strictly enforced in a deeply religious and conservative country.

The two type taxonomy people who follow Blanchard say that people like me are lying to ourselves but it is they who are lying to us. It was very simple and convenient for Blanchard to accuse someone of lying when their testimony didn’t match what he was trying to prove. But I know my truth and so do others like me and it is unquestionable to us.

Blanchard’s work is on the way out anyway but it still leaves the question as to why we are so inclined.

Another question that fascinates me is the engine that drives a gynephilic transsexual to transition. What is the dividing line between someone who crossdresses from a very young age but is happy to remain that way and the person who at some point feels compelled to transition. Both experience arousal which wanes with age so what is the difference?

No one really knows.

In fact we don’t know what we are talking about most of the time when it comes to sex and gender because the science is so incredibly lacking. I always say here that this void is filled by all types of charlatans and their pseudoscientific websites and articles all leading towards inconclusive results. Brain studies tease us with potential answers but just add more questions to the mix. its all a bit like trying to understand the nature of the universe and that of its creator.

The most important truth is to understand yourself from the inside out and know what will make you happy. Opinions are like assholes in that everyone has one and the politics that govern gender behavior are loosening slowly every day.

Know yourself and proceed accordingly.

Wednesday, 9 December 2015

this time of year

The Christmas holidays can be a wonderful time but they can also be painful for many. I lost my father on January 5th, 1995 to lung cancer (he was only 60 years old) and so this time of year has taken on a different tone since then. I have been officially divorced now for 7 years and we left the house where my children were born in late October of 2008.

Many transgender people have been rejected by their families and friends and this time of year is especially hard when they see others celebrate and take comfort in their life situation.

I can’t really complain because in spite of everything my life is hardly difficult compared to so many other people in this world. Many are focused just on having a bed to sleep on and a warm meal in their stomach.

Life is not easy for anyone but maybe the best thing is to be thankful for what we do have rather than compare ourselves to others who have more. Sometimes what we think is idyllic is far from being the case when we scratch below the surface.

I am trying to focus on stripping my life down to the bare essentials. I want to have peace of mind after not having had it for a good part of my life. The challenges I have faced have hopefully made me a stronger person and I need to keep that in mind as I embark on another year.

I don’t make resolutions. I simply try and look inward and see what I need to repair as I go along and as I get older I find that the material things of this world bring me less and less joy.

Better to look inward and work on that.


Tuesday, 8 December 2015

He's my Girl

"La Folle Histoire D'amour de Simon Eskenazy" (He's my Girl in English) is a 2009 French film about a Parisian divorced gay man and his crossdressing young arab boyfriend played by actor Mehdi Dehbi. The movie is a comedy drama which questions gender stereotypes, religious dogma and our even the relationships we have with our ageing parents. Yes life is complicated for everyone and the protagonist is no exception.

Mehdi Dehbi plays the younger lover in the guise of both man and woman and is equally convincing in either mode. He shows that a different gender presentation can be accomplished with great success by the same person. Of course he is small boned and fine featured which only helps pull the whole thing off.

I wasn't expecting to find the entire movie on YouTube and at a short 1:30 it's not hard to end up watching the whole thing.

The film is in French but has English subtitles.

Sunday, 6 December 2015

as we come of age

Many of us assume that gender expression and behavior are necessarily linked to identity and they can be but not always. We see drag queens exalt in exaggerated femininity but then remove their dresses and be perfectly happy in their male bodies.

The transgender movement might be on the verge of becoming accepted but some of us need to reflect on what is really required to keep us balanced and happy.

I don't like someone else labeling me which is why I stay away from terms that have a acquired a historical meaning for people but doesn't describe me fully as a person. One such term is cross dresser which replaced transvestite in our modern lexicon. Those descriptors carried weight during their eras but they were coined when we knew far less about sex and gender.

The term transsexual was also minted during the same era and carried its own connotations.

The problem was that people continued to blur the lines between them. Some people began as self described crossdressers but ended up transitioning. This led to the adopting of the term transgender to try and capture all forms of gender variance and is even now embraced by some transitioned women; Geena Rocero and Janet Mock come to mind as examples.

Older transitioned women bristle at being associated with other transgender people because they grew up during a time when transvestite was just another term for sexual deviant and indeed our infamous Dr. Blanchard didn't help matters when he drew a clear distinction between his two typologies.

The fact is that we know close to nothing about transsexualism and other forms of gender variance which end up today under the same umbrella term. What is good is that we have depathologized gender variance and have chalked it up to an expected biological variant of nature. In other words, nothing is uniform or perfect.

The danger for some of us might be to think that in order to lead honest lives that we must abandon our lives as husbands and fathers to pursue lives as transitioned women. Yes for some this is a necessity while for others it may be a path best not traveled.

Remembering that gender variance can be expressed and celebrated within the context of our existing reality might be the best victory of all. After all how much of your behaviour has been governed by what you were told was expected rather than based on your own instincts.



Thursday, 3 December 2015

lack of a common origin makes little sense

According to Ray Blanchard there are two distinct types of male to female transsexuals: one woman loving (gynephilic) and one man loving (androphilic). But if you read his work these archetypes seem to exist like silos in complete isolation.

There seems to be little logic to the theory that one loves their own image as a female while the other wants to attract heterosexual partners. This is most especially true since both types can trace their gender incongruity to well before puberty thereby removing exclusively sexual motives from the equation. Blanchard avoids trying to explain female to male transsexualism because by this stage even he has confused himself as well as us.

But what if there were a biological root cause for the desire to be female which was simply passed through the filter of sexual orientation?

In the absence of gender dysphoria one type would be an effeminate boy who would grow up to be a homosexual while the other would grow up to be a heterosexual male.

Now add gender dysphoria to the mix and the first type has a perfect alignment by puberty: they are attracted to other boys, are effeminate and are deeply dysphoric. This type of person becomes the typical early transitioner with notable examples being: Tula, Andreja Pejic, April Ashley and Christine Jorgensen among many others.

The second type reaches puberty and recognizes a problem: their orientation and gender dysphoria are in misalignment therefore they will suppress as much as they can their true feelings. This was especially true in our mid-20th century world where gender roles were exceedingly rigid. Notable examples of this group include Lili Elbe, Roberta Cowell, Jan Morris, Katherine Cummings, Renee Richards and Virginia Prince.

During that period of our history even androphilic transsexuals had an enormously difficult time in trying to transition and would do so as much as possible in stealth.

We know very little about the human brain and even less about the origins of transsexualism but if its origins lie in the incorrect administration of androgens (to name one possibility) then we have a potential root cause of a condition that leads people with extreme gender dysphoria to the same place via different routes.

One thing you will note is that as our gender roles have been relaxed in the 21st century we are seeing gynephilic transsexuals transition much earlier than they used to. This is a sign that much of their hesitance was previously rooted in societal disapproval in addition to their own attempts at curing themselves of their contradiction.

If we also agree that dysphoria can be graded then we can have people who exist between genders but can resist undergoing any body modifications. This would include people who call themselves gender fluid, androgynous, gender queer, crossdressers and yes even drag queens who resist calling themselves transgender and yet many of whom clearly show signs of gender behavior which falls well outside the norm even off stage.




Wednesday, 2 December 2015

the turning tide

The backlash against transgender people is growing and is a reflection of the attention paid in the media to this issue. Camille Paglia and others are weighing in on the transgender popularity as if being this way was something you picked up as a fad. But conversely to what she thinks, the number of transgender people isn’t growing it’s just that they now feel free to come out and express themselves in broad daylight.

Over at Crossdreamers Jack Molay’s most recent post deals with an Israeli study of brain differences between men and women which shows (to no one’s surprise) that there are differences but also a large amount of overlap between male and female brains. We see this every day in our daily life: feminine men and masculine women and everything in between. In the end we are unique creations and have our own mixture of gender traits which vary across a spectrum. This is reality.

What is not reality are the social constraints that prohibited people from being themselves. That was artificially created by the societies that people lived in and to what degree you were allowed to express yourself depended on the tolerance level.

Some people get very bothered by what they do not understand. I have always had trouble with this facet of humanity but it’s not going to go away anytime soon. There are supremely ignorant and boorish comments spewed everyday on the internet and on television. The good news is that more and more people are correcting the ones who speak without knowledge.

You can feel the tide turning.

At many points during this video sequence, Paglia is almost incoherent but that is not surprising because she is tackling a subject she is not versed or conversant in and it shows.