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you could do a lot worse

I have a visceral distaste for arrogance steeped in narcissism. It is one of the reasons I can’t stand even looking at Donald Trump doing his best not to appear buffoonish before his loyal followers.

Love his politics or not Barack Obama is an intelligent man who did his very best in an environment where the cards were stacked against him from the outset. The Democrats were a minority in the house and Senate and many Republicans in both branches openly despised him.

Trying to do the right thing for the American populace was all but a Herculean task and yet things are better than when he took office.

The mess left behind by Dubbya was attempted to be cleaned up and the economy is humming along better than when he took office. But don’t trust me and go look at the numbers for yourself. Yes not everything is perfect but then how can they in such a deeply divided nation.

The Bush years produced many scandals not the least of which was Plamegate where an undercover CIA operative was unmasked to get even with her husband Ambassador Joseph Wilson who had the audacity to pen an Op-Ed in the New York Times telling the truth: namely that those tubes from Niger were not for the enrichment of uranium. The Bush White House wouldn't have anyone reduce their momentum for going into Iraq, so someone close to Dick Cheney (if not smiley himself) committed a federal offense and dropped Valerie Plame's name to journalist Robert Novak adding that Wilson had a vested interest to write that piece due to his wife's job. The punishment for this type of offense is prison time.

There were no consequences and the unjust war went ahead anyway. Scooter Libby who reported to Cheney fell on his sword, was indicted and then very conveniently pardoned by Bush.

Trump’s team looks even scarier than Bush’s and those souls who think he is going to make America great again are in for a rude awakening and will be looking back at Obama’s tenure with fondness.

Don’t get me wrong, politics is a dirty business full of chicanery and back stabbing no matter which leader is running the show. However, I look back at the last 8 years and can't help but think that the United States could have done a lot worse than choosing this man as their President.


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